Love is a very strange thing. It occurs when you least expect it, sometimes between people who have nothing in common whatsoever. Forget about ticking boxes. Forget about bending over backwards to treat the other person right. Forget about beautifying yourself to impress others. Love, it seems, doesn't work like this.
Chemistry, they say. What makes two people click? What does it take to release the butterflies in your stomach? What ignites the initial spark that is so essential for romantic love to develop from?
Mutual attraction is under appreciated. One-sided crushes and unrequited love are the usual stories. Or maybe my perspective is skewed, because I'm on entirely too many love forums where people ask for advice on matters such as this.
I don't understand uncomplicated love, where boy meets girl, boy and girl fall for each other, boy and girl get married and live happily ever after. I don't get how it can be so easy for some people to find love. I mean, drama-free? No lies, no game playing, no third parties? What?
If friendship is the foundation of a successful relationship, why do friends rarely become lovers, if at all? Oh yeah, because the spark that makes your stomach churn is lacking from the start. Which goes back to my first question: what makes your heart work over time to beat really fast?
'You don't find love. Love finds you.' I'm beginning to understand just how true this statement is. Circumstances bring people together. Love turns strangers into life partners. To think that we have control over the who and the how and the where is just arrogant; to believe that we can explain why somebody does or doesn't fall for us is ridiculous; and to hold it against ourselves simply because a certain someone doesn't find us attractive? Well, that's plain silly isn't it?
